How the sessions work
A closer look at the 8-week intensive Apply for a placeLimited spaces. By application.Say what you want. Stay present when it matters.
Watch your relationships change.
In session
Each in-person session is three hours
We start with what’s real.
What’s been happening in your life.
Where things have felt off.
We move between conversation, exercises, embodied practice, relational experiences, and consent-based somatic bodywork that challenges familiar ways of relating.
This can feel uncomfortable, confronting, even provocative, but the work is always guided by consent.
We work in real-time:
- noticing what’s happening in your body
- staying present if discomfort arises
- saying what’s actually true
- tracking the patterns that usually run automatically
This isn’t advice.
It’s practice.
This is where things shift
Session include:
conversation, reflection, and embodied practice
hands-on bodywork
integration, reflection, and next steps
ongoing support between sessions (WhatsApp)
Bodywork
Bodywork is included in each in-person session
We take what’s been explored in the session and continue the work through the body.
We work with touch, breath, and awareness to bring you into direct contact with what’s happening in the body as the pattern shows up.
You’re guided to stay connected to your experience throughout, noticing sensation, allowing what’s there, and staying present as things shift.
The pace is slow and responsive, led by your system in the moment.
You can read more about the structured somatic process I call Held.
What this requires from you
To get the most from this, you need to be willing to:
- be honest about what’s actually happening for you
- stay present when things feel uncomfortable
- try something different, even when it feels unfamiliar
- take what you learn into your real life
This isn’t about getting it right.
It’s about staying with it.
At times, this work might feel confronting, exposing or grounding. You might notice:
- the urge to explain or defend
- the pull to withdraw or smooth things over
- moments where you want to say something but hesitate
We work with those moments directly.
The nature of this work
This is a space to slow things down enough to actually feel what’s happening and learn to stay present with it.
We don’t work in theory.
We work with what’s happening in real time.
As you speak, relate, hesitate, or hold back, your patterns begin to reveal themselves. In your body, in your words, and in the space between us.
You’ll receive direct, real-time reflection as it happens, and you’ll be guided to stay with the moment rather than move past it.
This is where change begins.
This is an intimate, relational container.
We may work with desire, intimacy, and relational charge. The focus is on how you hold yourself within that.
All work is consent-led and held to a high standard of professionalism
This is embodied training
Not theory. Not performance. Not tactics.
In practice
The Pattern
A client came to me after a series of short- to mid-term relationships. His current relationship was close to breaking.
He described feeling misunderstood, like his efforts weren’t landing.
The balance had shifted way from ease and fun towards friction.
On the surface, it showed up in how he communicated.
Underneath, a deeper pattern was driving it.
There was a consistent sense of powerlessness in his relational dynamic. Not obvious, but consistently present.
He was:
- holding back what he really wanted
- softening his words to keep the peace
- over-accommodating, then feeling the quiet build of resentment
The Work
We worked in real time with what was happening in the space between us.
As he spoke and I reflected, we tracked:
- where his body tightened
- where his voice lost clarity
- where he held back his truth
As these patterns appeared, they were named in the moment.
This created the opportunity to interrupt them, and stay with what came up instead.
Across the sessions, deeper layers began to surface.
What emerged wasn’t just relational. It was a long-held imprint of:
- shame
- inadequacy
- unworthiness
As felt experience in the body.
Through the bodywork, the client experienced several significant somatic releases connected to these patterns.
Each arising as the system began to feel safe enough to let go.
The Shift
Afterwards, he described:
- a sense of spaciousness in his body
- less discomfort and tension when speaking
- more steadiness when expressing desire
- noticing not holding back in the moments he usually would.
This wasn’t about becoming someone new.
It showed up in small, precise ways:
- saying what he wanted without diluting it…. and getting it
- addressing tension in real time, and returning to conversations that previously stayed unresolved
- recognising where he was compromising himself, and choosing differently
Not just in his relationship, but across other areas of life.
Less over-accommodation.
Cleaner expression.
A different relationship to his own voice.
This is what pattern interruption looks like in practice.
Not theory.
Not performance.
A shift in how someone meets themselves and others in real time.
This case reflects a composite of client experiences. Details have been adapted to protect confidentiality.
Meet Kailani
I work with men who are steady in life, but find relationships harder than they look.
This is real-time, embodied work helping you stay present, say what’s true, and lead yourself more cleanly in connection.
Do you feel it?
This work isn’t for everyone. But if you recognise yourself in this, you’ll know.